Meeting people of the opposite sex is not easy. And even if you meet women you’re interested in talking to, what to do next? These questions and concerns are as old as time, which luckily means that you can learn from other people’s mistakes. Like anything, learning how to interact with the opposite sex takes practice, but as the saying goes, practice makes perfect.
Once you get comfortable talking to women, there’ll be no stopping you. It can be tough to even know where to begin, but try not to get overwhelmed or stress yourself out. Women can sense fear, so don’t let her know you’re nervous. Act cool, calm, and collected and she’ll be none the wiser.
Here are some ways to get more comfortable interacting with attractive women, whether just for friendship, dating, or something more.
Seek Out Singles Events
This may seem obvious or maybe you even think it’s lame. But any way you look at it, events for singles bring together people of the opposite sex who want to meet each other. This eliminates half the battle, as it can be hard to know which women are available when you go out on your own.
At an event like speed dating, for example, you know all the women there are single and looking to meet someone, which should help decrease your anxiety about talking to them in the first place. You already have some common ground, the fact that you’re there in the first place, so that should help break the ice.
Various companies put on these events for all types of people. You can find them for busy executives who want to meet in a group setting over lunch, you can meet other active singles for an event like hiking, or you could just go to a mixer at a bar. Whatever the venue, it should start you off on the right foot to know that the other women there are single and looking.
Practice on EVERYONE
Just because your end goal is to meet an attractive woman, doesn’t mean you can’t benefit from striking up a conversation with just about anyone. To build your confidence, you can start with people with whom you’re forced to interact. Take, for example, the cashier at a convenience store. You’ll be required to interact with them a little bit, so why not use that time to practice your conversational skills?
Look for one that looks attractive to you to make it more real for you but whichever cashier you choose, it can be something as simple as asking them a single question and then responding to their answer. You’ll see that it’s really not so hard and even on the off chance that it doesn’t go well, you only have to be there for a few seconds, so you can make your escape sooner than later.
From there, you can graduate to people waiting in front or behind you in line for something, as you have an obvious topic of discussion. You’ll probably have a little bit longer to interact in a situation like this, so you can use it like a stepping-stone to bigger and longer conversations.
Once you’re comfortable in these scenarios, you can try pushing your boundaries a little further as you get out your comfort zone a little bit more and strike up conversations more out-of-the-blue. Of course you should pick and choose who you interact with (hint: headphones are a good indicator that the person does not want to be disturbed), but don’t be scared to go a little bit out of your way to talk to someone. If you’re not sure what to say, you can never go wrong with a simple compliment.
Don’t Dwell On The Negative
Everyone gets rejected from time to time, even the most suave guys, so when it happens to you, just let it roll right off your shoulders. Who knows why that particular woman wasn’t interested, but it’s her loss and onto the next one. Don’t let the occasional negative interaction ruin your day. See if there’s anything you can learn from it, and if not, treat it like a bad apple situation, and get over it. No reason to miss out on a potentially good thing because you’re still reeling from something in the past.
Learn From An Expert
Some men prefer to learn from an expert instead of trying to go it alone. If you’re one such guy, you’re in luck because there are loads of programs and services out there to help guys just like you. For example, the Tao of Badass is a crash-course in how to talk to women, written by an actual dating coach, who can help you learn how to know what to say and how to attract women.
However you decide to go about working on improving your skills with women, remember there’s nothing they find more attractive than a man with confidence and a nice smile.